Aaronelvis

Hi I have a couple of problems with my 2009 x5 xdrive. 3.0d first of all. Should I be able to select neutral with the ignition on with engine but not started. Secondly, since I’ve been unable to select different gears or neutral I cannot get my car to start. I’ve changed fuel pump relay as not getting any fuel to fuel rail. Are used to be able to select a neutral with the engine off with this now stop the car starting